CSI Miami has just started. The voiceover introduction was the BEST INTRO EVER…….

“It’s time to put on … the sunglasses of justice”

Some days you just have to love Channel 5.

Heather Gold has written a fantastic piece about what coming out is really about:

“Coming out is not just about the gender of the people you desire. It’s about being your whole self, in public. It’s about honesty. It’s about transparency. It’s about difference and togetherness. It’s about self-acceptance, not waiting for the acceptance of others. It’s about integration. It’s about the whole cookie. I wish it, in all aspects of life, for you.”

This is the most brilliant explanation of why coming out is important I have ever seen. And it’s not just relevant for the LGB community either. It speaks to why it’s important for ALL aspects of diversity to be acknowledged, given head-space, entertained, celebrated. As Stonewall say, “People perform better when they can be themselves”.

I wrote an article a while ago for the FFLAG newsletter. Since I wrote it as a representative of my company and I prefer to keep my work and my blog separate, I won’t re-publish it here, but I’ll re-make the most salient point:

People talk about our society becoming more and more tolerant. Tolerance is not something to aim for, though. It’s the absolute baseline. Being tolerated just means not being killed. It means someone putting up with your existence. Sometimes in a very passive-aggressive way, but in more progressive countries it’s probably more like the way people tolerate visits to the dentist — not the way they’d prefer to spend an afternoon, but something that has to be done.

In my personal opinion what we should be aiming for is so much more than tolerance. It’s about celebrating diversity — the different experiences, histories, cultures, customs, memories, practices, viewpoints, attitudes. Everything from respecting the right of a devout Muslim woman to wear whatever veil she feels appropriate, to that of a gay man to wear leather hotpants and a pink feather boa if that’s what makes him feel comfortable.

As Heather would put it, it’s about the whole cookie.

My week off has largely consisted of sitting on the sofa watching daytime telly. Sad I know, but Elly is back at university now, doing her Part 2.

Today’s Midsomer Murders featured a very young-looking Orlando Bloom. That was scary enough, but in one of the rare moments when I was actually paying attention, the big boss and Troy appeared to be talking about Tolkien/Lord of the Rings! Not sure whether that was sychronicity or a specific dig, but it made me do a complete double-take!

Been a bit of a big week really. Last Wednesday, Elly & I had our 4 year anniversary. Then on Saturday we got married. And today was my 24th birthday.

Strangely, nothing feels particularly different. I suppose that’s a good sign though. Either everything is just the way it ought to be now, or deep inside I’ve always been old & married! ;-)

Well, the day is finally upon us. Tomorrow afternoon, Elly & I will be getting married.

I can’t describe how happy I am. Those who’ve known me longer than 4 years will have seen the immense difference Elly has made to my life. Without her I was lost. I struggled to control my manic depression, I drank too much, I got into fights. Although I can hardly claim to be a model citizen now, her calming influence has made me hugely more stable ;-)

Which is an overly logical way of talking around the fact that I love her more than life itself. Marrying her tomorrow will be the best thing that has ever happened to me. And I cannot wait to start enjoying the rest of our lives together.

For those interested in the wedding, there’ll be more details (incl photos) over at the wedding site.

Thanks to Elly, Meriblog is also going Pink for October for Breast Cancer Awareness Month. If you’re feeling a little flush, make a donation online.