I haven’t been around for a while. In the Real World (TM) things have been manically busy, with work, sorting out place to live next academic year, helping people sort their lives out and somehow fitting in time with the Important People in my life. I haven’t disappeared from the net completely, but significant amounts of my time recently have been spent reading about the American gay marriages events, the surrounding controversy, legalities and social implications. A lot of people have opinions about this and it’s been interesting (and I mean that as in both interesting enraging and interesting encouraging) to watch the debate.

What occurred to me recently though is that people aren’t actually arguing about the root cause of their disagreement. Whether you believe that marriage should be extended to gay people doesn’t depend on whether or not you think it will harm the sanctity of marriage or harm society or whether you think homosexuality is an abomination in the eyes of (pick the relevant) god, unnatural, etc etc etc.

The root cause of people’s disagreements over this comes down to there being two groups of people involved in the debate and many people not knowing what group they belong to. The first group believes that your sexuality is a choice … that you are born straight and _choose_ to be gay or bisexual. The other group believes that sexuality is something that is part of you — you are born with the ability to fancy those of the same and/or the opposite sex.

When you look at it through this framework, suddenly it is much clearer why there is so much disparity in people’s views. There are lots of people that contend this is a civil rights issue and (probably more) that believe it is not. This comes back to the beliefs above … if you think that homosexuality is behaviour, of course it isn’t a civil rights issue. These people just need to sort their heads out and start acting like normal human beings. Letting them _marry_ each other will just degrade my privileged position (in being able to marry) and reassure them that they are human beings … which of course they aren’t if they insist on behaving like this.

If, however, you believe (as I do) that attraction to those of the same (and indeed the opposite) sex is something you are born with, then this is a civil rights issue. I can no more change the fact that I am a lesbian than I can the colour of my skin. We have accepted that different colours do not mean people are not human … we just need to get to the point that people understand that sexuality is also not an optional extra.

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